If you are the parent of minor children, it is likely that you and your ex-spouse will have a co-parenting arrangement in the future. Co-parenting is developmentally best for children, but it is also rife with challenges.
There is more than one way to have a co-parenting arrangement, however. Many families are experimenting with “nesting” as a way to make parenting as divorcees much easier. Nesting is when children reside in a single residence and the parents move in and out of that residence as per their co-parenting agreement, according to Psychology Today.
Who does this benefit?
Nesting is a living arrangement that turns the traditional co-parenting set up on its head. Rather than the children moving between two separate residences, the parents are the ones moving out and the children stay put.
Nesting can be very beneficial for children, particularly in the first stages of divorce. It is probable that you and your ex-spouse will not want to be cohabiting during this time, and nesting allows you the space you need while keeping the kids in a stable living situation. If you are not the “on-duty” parent, you might choose to stay with other friends or family members to get needed space.
How long does nesting last?
The majority of nesting arrangements are temporary, as it is likely both parents are going to want to set up their own independent living situations again at some point. However, in certain circumstances, people do keep up nesting arrangements for years. This is most common if a family resides in a high cost of living area that the parents would not be able to stay in as single residents.