Marital infidelity often means the demise of a relationship. That is why the prospect can be so upsetting to spouses who suspect something is wrong in their relationships. In many cases, there is no hard evidence pointing to the existence of an affair. Instead, there are many smaller signs that do not add up, and these signs can impact your spouse’s appearance, behavior, interests, and more.

While not all instances of cheating involve the same details, there are many signs of a cheating spouse that should be taken seriously. If you do uncover infidelity, it will ultimately be up to you to decide how to proceed. While some couples choose to work through the issue, many others consider divorce the only option when infidelity has occurred.

Your friends and family try to avoid you

When others in your social circle are aware of your spouse’s affair before you are, it can make for some awkward situations. As a result, these people may actively seek to avoid being in your presence. They may also appear uncomfortable when you are around, which can be disconcerting. While you would hope that those close to you would tell you about the actions of your spouse, many people do not because they are afraid of the possible fallout in their own lives.

You have trouble getting in touch with your spouse

Smartphones and other mobile devices mean that it is easier than ever to get in touch with the people you care about. While your spouse may be unreachable occasionally, such as when they are in a work meeting or while driving, long periods spent out of touch typically indicate a deeper issue. This is especially true if your spouse was easier to reach in the past.

You notice odd charges on debit and/or credit cards

Along with the emotional betrayal of infidelity, there is also a financial betrayal. As your spouse takes their affair partner out on dates and buys the person gifts, you might find that your finances are dwindling. And even if your finances are not affected, you may still notice odd charges on bank statements, such as purchases made at florist shops when you have not received flowers from your spouse in months.